I can't put this on a now closed thread

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 11:58

I feel the need to defend myself against a forum member, I cannot do this on the thread that is now closed. A few weeks ago I was a 'Hysterical housewife' something I laughed off at the time, yesterday I became a 'cronie' and today on a closed thread; "is a welcome guest among a handful of banned or otherwise unwelcome ex-c44 members:"

Why, Because I post on another forum?

When I was in NC last I saw this forum member twice, when I mentioned this to him after getting home he said "why didn't you introduce yourself I don't bite."

Can anyone see why I didn't introduce myself?

I do not want an argument, it is not in my nature, I just think the insults/grudges have to stop, and in the forum members defence I think it should stop from all sides.

Vicki

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 12:00

RE msg 1, britvic: (...) I just think the insults/grudges have to stop, and in the forum members defence I think it should stop from all sides. (...)

=> I agree one hundred percent. From all sides.

HildySmith


Joined: 02/07/2009
Posts: 1708

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 12:10

Hi britvic

Do not let it get you down. Some people are just cowards and it is easier to bully someone from afar when you are sitting in your own comfortable surroundings. They are sad, very sad people who get fun out of abusing others. Do not give them the benefit of thinking they have got to you - bullies are like that. Face to face up front they are nothing but cowards. Remember your school days you knew who they were, here do not. What is the point of having a forum like this if people cannot say how your what they think, without the fear of being intimidated, insulted or harrassed. Don't let them do it to you.

flightholiday


Joined: 19/07/2007
Posts: 3217

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 12:24

Vicki



I agree insults etc. are not needed and on my part I do not welcome seeing them.



We can all contribute and learn whatever our age, nationality or background.



We can all agree to disagree or even to agree, sometimes we can be annoyed but that is no excuse for lashing out and causing hurt.



I understand where you were coming from when you did not want to introduce yourself.



On this board and on ones from the past I have felt that I was not sure if I could trust someone to be well behaved if I met them in person; as I am sure others do. I try not to annoy others but I suppose can fail dismally on occasion if so I apologise.



To pinch your words "I do not want an argument, it is not in my nature" that is in life and in business too.



Tom

mrcyprus


Joined: 26/06/2009
Posts: 270

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:07

Agree with you too vicki.



It seems the majority of this board is taken over by people that love an argument, and i will guess someone will create a problem in this thread once the low-life, pedantic, idiotic, immature people start reading it.



When i joined a couple months ago i did so because i heard it was a great place to get help, and yes it is, but its also being dragged down by prats who act tough behind a computer screen. To be honest most people i speak to in the day over here tell me they dont use the forum simply because most people on it are Tw*ts.

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:12

I'm in agreement here with Britvic. Let’s put a stop to all this 'them and us' nonsense - I for one have had enough of it.



We all know the rules so there's no need for some posters to continually post about 'Rule this and Rule that'



Life's too short to keep arguing and bitching about each other. If you don't like someone's posts or where their loyalties lie then just ignore them.

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:25

Looks like *all sides* agree. All problems solved then.

simbas



Joined: 16/07/2007
Posts: 5943

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:33

Hi Vicky , i think we have to feel sorry for these people , they can't have much of a meaningful life , or they would'nt be so obnoxious to other people , nothing wrong with a healthy argument , but it so often turns into a personal and nasty slanging match , you have heard " attack is the best form of defence , they obviously feel threatened by the decent people using this forum suggesting something is sadly lacking in their demeanour

Take care , Simbas

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:50

Hi Simbas, Yes your right maybe we should feel sorry for them, its a bit difficult when its aimed at yourself though, a bit of tongue in cheek is fine also a post you have made whereby you think afterwards "Oops that didn't come out right." You can always go back and explain yourself, but some posters are just downright nasty and go out of their way to create a bad atmosphere. And Bill your right too much emphasis on the rules, this avatar business, I have had my avatar on here since I joined, never have I been recognised by it, (I even sat next to a forum member in The Hut, and he doesn't have is avatar, just knew who he was) I don't see the problem therefore of posting a picture of yourself.



Vicki

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 13:56

That didn't come out right, better explain myself, should have said "He doesn't have an avatar on here, just knew who he was." LOL





Vicki

fire starter


Joined: 19/06/2008
Posts: 3401

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 14:18

I've deleted this post as it was unecessary given what has been stated on this thread.



Enough is enough. The name calling has to end now.

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 14:23

I too have met N, in fact realising we had no electric on our last visit to NC, N was straight round the next morning after our arrival with a generator! Thanks N, by the way I may need that again in the next month. LOL



Vicki

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 15:02

How nice to see how *all sides* hurry to grab the opportunity to write normal posts without insults, threats etc.

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 15:50

Hi Vicki. Please dont let them get to you. I dont know which thread or who you are referring to. I miss all the rows.You are honest and upfront which is more than can be said for some on here. Take care xxx

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 15:57

Hi Lilli, I don't let anyone get to me, I am just trying to highlight a problem, and it's not just my problem, you yourself have had the odd slur from certain posters too.



Hope you and Guido are well.



Vicki

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 16:04

Lilli, message 15 - "I miss all the rows".



Alright then Lilli lets start one now. )))

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 16:10

Heheheh, I think people only like rows that they themselves are not involved in.

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 16:20

Hi Bill. I meant to say that I do not see these posts reffered to as when I get in they are either closed or deleated.I should have said I miss seeing them. sorry xx

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 16:46

Lilli, I know what you meant - just having a bit of fun. Take care.

teatime


Joined: 20/10/2008
Posts: 852

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 18:22

Vicki

Totally agree with your sentiments, this thread has been so positive, but will it last???

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 18:26

Roy, together we have to make it last.

teatime


Joined: 20/10/2008
Posts: 852

Message Posted:
23/09/2009 18:53

OK, I'll be good then Bill ;)