please please try to help me

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:25

please i need help ive to flee from a violent tc partner before nxt time he kills me or my daughter all i will say is that ive 6 stiches to my head ,ive a kangal dog 4 yrs male castrated such lovely nature and a sausae dog 8 mths and 3 white odd eyed cats desperately to home before i will go please i really need no bad postings this is killing me to do and belive me if i really didnt need to get away id never part with them and before any one starts bout taken them im having to go and leave every thing i own here and my money gone

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:33

Debbie,

No woman in this world needs to put up with this. Please for your sake, your daughter and every other female report this to the police and get him arrested. Why should you loose everything you love for him.

Phone me in the morning after 8am and if I can help I will. 0533 884 5621



Chris

dizzycows


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 2736

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:35

Oh my dear God, you poor woman, if you are being hit like this and frightened for your life and daughters, get the hell out of there as dead you are no good to your daughter! Some one will sort out the dogs and cats....

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:45

i love my animals so much i just want them safe if i just leave he would just dump them or leave them to starve i really dont know which way to turn im in so much pain

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:48

Debbie Im so sorry. I did send you a msg on facebook as I was so worried about you. Get help, get the police and get out . You cant live in fear. Call me on 05338336911. I had no idea it was so bad.

rowlo



Joined: 12/10/2008
Posts: 4796

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:49

better to leave the animals and save yourself and your kids mate .

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:50

You MUST get to the Police station (taking your child with you, unless you can leave her with someone you trust NOT to let your partner near her) and report him immediately. I am surprised the Hospital, when they stitched your head (or Doctor - whoever it was) didn't report him immediately. If you have any friends or family nearby, stay with them from now on, taking all your jewellery, and any other valuables. Anything that is valuable, you cannot carry, ask a neighbour if you can leave with them, or put in the dog kennel or someplace he won't think to look. Do NOT stay in your home, unless you know he is at the Police station or indeed - imprisoned. Ask the police if there is a safe house or Refuge on the Island, failing which, are you English/British? Contact the Embassy and ask their advice. Leave food out for the animals, and water - but ring KAR and explain the situation - seeking their help/advice. You don't say how old your daughter is........keep yourselves safe.........

yorgozlu



Joined: 16/06/2009
Posts: 4437

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:51

Do you need help right NOW?

0533 8739181

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:51

lilli did you et my email hun

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:56

my daughter is 6 .this happened mon night he wouldn let me talk to nurses and told them differant story im trying hard to sort this to go

Pandy


Joined: 27/08/2010
Posts: 171

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:57

My thoughts are with you. Your number 1 priority is your daughter and yourself and hopefully someone will help you out with the animals.

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 21:59

Debbie,

Message 8 Yorgozlu has responded to you, he is genuine please if you need help right now phone him. Believe me you can trust him with your life.



Chris

erolz


Joined: 17/11/2008
Posts: 3456

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:02

yorgozlu just sent you an email



berilela if you need help right now please do contact yorgozlu.

rowlo



Joined: 12/10/2008
Posts: 4796

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:02

do as chris says , CALL YORGO NOW .

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:03

thank you to you all for your help my 1 worry is he says i cant take my daughter as has his name but she was born in uk and has uk passport ??

rowlo



Joined: 12/10/2008
Posts: 4796

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:07

the passport says it all , phone yorgo .

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:07

Debra just seen them and sent you one back. Ring Yorg, he will know how to help. Layla is yours get her and you out of there. I will go and feed your animals. Yorg is a genuine caring person and will not tolerate this.

Pandy


Joined: 27/08/2010
Posts: 171

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:08

I agree with Rowlo make a call

erolz


Joined: 17/11/2008
Posts: 3456

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:09

berilela just fleeing to UK, with your daughter is not the right thing to do. The first thing to do is find saftey. There are people who will help get you and ypour daughter and animlas to a safe place. Once that is done you can consider the next stage. Do not make decisions in a state of desperation. Get safe, then work out next moves. I would trust Yorgozlu without reservation. I urge you to please please contact him.

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:15

Debbie,



I don't normally work out of hour but if you can't phone Yorgozlu phone me. there are lots of people out there willing to help. For your daughters sake phone one of us now and we will work something out.



Chris

0533 884 5621 If you don't have credits on your phone e-mail us your phone number. Please

yorgozlu



Joined: 16/06/2009
Posts: 4437

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:15

I agree 100% with erolz comments.

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:16

thank you i will in morning

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:20

Debbie,



Please don't wait until the morning for your daughter sake phone one of us now, we can and will help.



Chris

jenfarrall


Joined: 21/09/2008
Posts: 297

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:25

I would trust Yorgozlu with my kids lives,please contact him and let him help and advise,we all want to help you x

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:25

Debbie, do as Chris says, We do not want to provoke any more probs for you. Please call Yorg and take Erolz advice you also will need legal help.We are all here for you x

oceana


Joined: 12/07/2010
Posts: 395

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:26

You must phone the police or must call for help and I dont think you should worry about anything! I can see you have enough people witnessing the situation you are in so the police will believe you!. Don't let him make your and your daughters life hell.

Pandy


Joined: 27/08/2010
Posts: 171

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:31

Take up one of these heartfelt offers of help please!

Glasbury


Joined: 13/08/2010
Posts: 268

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:37

berilela - please let some of these kind people help you out of this awful situation.

Cyprusquest


Joined: 09/12/2008
Posts: 428

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:47

Debbie - If what you tell us is true (which we think it is) the best advice is do something now.

If you leave it till the morning can you be sure you and your daughter will see the morning?



John

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:50

Debbie,



Please listen to what we are saying. i have spoken to Yorgozlou on the phone and we will come tonight NOW and take you somewhere safe. Please call.



Chris

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 22:56

Chris trying to call you x

batterboy58



Joined: 20/04/2008
Posts: 442

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:14

How heartwarming the amount of offers to help this poor woman, if I was not in the UK I would offer my support also, however I do have an empty apartment which I would be happy to offer as a temporary refuge for this lady and her daughter.

Please ring someone before this happens again!

dandd3


Joined: 10/06/2010
Posts: 326

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:17

If u need help give me a call 05338717622

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:20

message 32



Can you e-mail me your UK phone number in case we need to take you up on your kind offer of a temporary refuge.



Chris

trnchealthcare@gmail.com

batterboy58



Joined: 20/04/2008
Posts: 442

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:21

Chris

Already done.

John

moonstars


Joined: 17/06/2011
Posts: 1

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:21

Debie , take yr daughter and go, u dont no how lucky you are to have all these people on here wanting to help you .

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:23

John msg 35 you are so kind xxxx Its times like this that I thank God for 44 x

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:28

John,



Got your e-mail and replied thank you.



Chris

spider


Joined: 03/01/2009
Posts: 5527

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:35

Could someone please post if they have had any contact at all with Debbie as her last posting was 1 hour ago and a lot can happen in this time ?....

Why oh why has she not contacted any of her friends on her phone list ! This happened on Monday ?.



So far I can make out that he was violent on Monday evening ! she stay's and has not said tonight what he is up too or his state of mind..Just that she needs to find homes for her beloved pets and her money has run out...



Oh dear..Lets hope now that like the ticking of a clock every moment changes for the better..For her !



Has anyone been able to contact her please ? with an update ?



Spider.X

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:37

Spider its all in hand x

spider


Joined: 03/01/2009
Posts: 5527

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:38

All I can tell is she is no longer logged on !







Spider,X

brother



Joined: 29/01/2010
Posts: 446

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:43

I do hope this is a genuine call for help and I am staggered by the attentiveness of the members of this forum.

I can't help directly but I know from past experience of a relative how frightening, complex and disastrous this type of relationship can be. I know it is far too simple for others to say you & the child(ren) need to get away however it will be the best thing you have ever done in the long run.

spider


Joined: 03/01/2009
Posts: 5527

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:48

Great news Lilli..



Lets hope now that after a good nights rest she can start to think more positive about her future..



Sending all best wishes.



And please I do hope she keep us updated on her progress. and good luck in re-homing your pets.



Spider,X

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
17/06/2011 23:48

brother I do beleive it is a real cry for help. I agree with you though having been through one myself. It is not so easy to go. Knowing this person and the care she has for her home and her animals and of course her child it will never be easy x

metin


Joined: 08/09/2008
Posts: 1588

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 00:02

This is why I love this forum.

Everyone pulls together when the going gets rough.



Good luck Debbie, will be thinking of you.



Thanks to all the helpers on the forum.

Blackbird



Joined: 11/08/2009
Posts: 1432

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 00:36

I do hope Debbie and her daughter are OK, and that she has taken some of the excellent advise given here. Please let us know how you are Debbie.

Blackpoolfan


Joined: 03/12/2008
Posts: 1568

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 00:42

I only wish we had this kind of genuine support in the uk it would be a better place.

The guy who offered his home every respect what a kind thought, and to Yorgozlu every respect for your offer of help people working together in the face of adversity FANTASTIC

chriswife


Joined: 30/03/2011
Posts: 449

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 00:48

Thank God for human beings puling together. Well done guys. Whata thread very upsetting.



Best Wishes to the lady and daughter

berilela


Joined: 17/07/2010
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 07:34

thank you to every one you are so kind i have been to police whom have told him to leave and in process of sorting flight and going asap ,but i would like to say thank you to the person whom contacted HIM saying what had been put on here all i will say is you know who you are and you have seen my ingures so how nice of you not ,still desperate for my animals if any one interested .ill kept telephone numbers of all whom gave them and will keep them in case any further problems , and to the man whom offered his appt ,THANK YOU FROM MY HEART

Linnyloos


Joined: 30/11/2008
Posts: 483

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 08:29

Just read this. So upsetting to hear of someone receiving this treatment.



How refreshing to see people coming together to help. Wish I could too.



I do hope you and your daughter can get away as soon as possible. I wish you the very best of luck x

BoTanica


Joined: 22/12/2009
Posts: 714

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 09:31

Hope all works out for you Berilela. x

suehowlittle


Joined: 31/10/2010
Posts: 1202

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 10:22

Just seen this for the first time this morning



This brought back so many unhappy, very similar memories but, being in the UK, you were pretty much alone 35 years alone, even families were reluctant to get involved (you made your bed now sleep in it) attitude.



My throat was aching as I read all the postings, what lovely people you all are, Instant response to a fellow human in pain.



Well done!

soyelcin


Joined: 01/06/2009
Posts: 91

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 10:55

true kindness from you all, such a quick response to get her to safety, well done

Roomy


Joined: 20/02/2011
Posts: 836

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:16

Give yourselves a round of applause, I am mightily impressed and it is things like this that helps keep my faith in human kindness.Well done you lot.

beachsidebum


Joined: 02/03/2010
Posts: 425

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:19

Well done to all concerned,, lets hope this has a happy ending.

flightholiday


Joined: 19/07/2007
Posts: 3217

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:29

Watched this well into the night - Nothing I could do and good sense was coming out so no postings from me - it is good that it seems to be being resolved - & nice for a change no bickering just working to help someone in need

metin


Joined: 08/09/2008
Posts: 1588

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:36

Does anyone know if she has managed to get away yet ???? And have the animals been sorted ???

metin


Joined: 08/09/2008
Posts: 1588

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:39

Does anyone know if she has managed to get away yet ???? And have the animals been sorted ???

dizzycows


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 2736

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 11:46

Berilela, all the best to you and your daughter.... A man that has done that should now start to look over his shoulder!

So pleased that you have actually made the sensible choice to get out of an abusive relationship... The animals will be looked after by some one,



All the very best, and 'to hell' to the scum bag called your partner .... x

speedster


Joined: 20/06/2010
Posts: 242

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 12:04

What a great and supportive thread, actually brought tears to my eyes reading the posts!!!!

Well done everyone that offered help and support to this poor lady in distress.

Lets wish her the best for the future!!

charlieb


Joined: 17/12/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 12:15

well done all.....seen this developing last night and felt so proud of all the people who offered help.

Checked for updates as oon as I woke this morning

My faith in C44 has been restored by the kindness shown by the posters who offered immediate help and advice.

Well done to all and I hope it work out for this poor woman.

brother



Joined: 29/01/2010
Posts: 446

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 12:15

It's great to read the good news this morning. All the best to you Debbie - I hope life smiles on you more readily from now on.



Shame to also read that some "snake" crawled from under its rock to try and help the perpetrator.

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 13:13

Mods can we close this now as I am sure Debbie has had enough and the issue at hand has been addressed.



Chris

simbas



Joined: 16/07/2007
Posts: 5943

Message Posted:
18/06/2011 13:22

This thread is now closed.



Reason: Thread was addressed and no need for further posts. I'm sure you are right Chris . Simbas